Epiphanies Of Life

I was reading an article recently of a father saying that his wife is more important than his children. This dad made very important points as to why it is important for him to preserve and nurture his relationship with his wife, first, especially for the benefit of his kids. He states that their relationship is the cornerstone of the family. It’s where it all started and that in order for the family to continue in a healthy way, they need to keep the spark and connection going in their relationship. For more on this story go to https://www.babble.com/relationships/the-case-for-putting-my-wife-before-my-children/ . When my husband and I went for counselling before our wedding, as protocol in our church, we were repeatedly advised in 3 different sessions by 3 different groups of people that we should remember that before we had kids, we had each other and long after they have moved out of the house, we will still only have each other. That helped me realise importance of the healt

Recently, there have been so many controversies and scandals around churches and seeing that we just celebrated, as Christians, the resurrection of our Lord and Saviour, even at the wake of the sad news of the bombing of a church on Easter Sunday, I thought it best to write something about the church. South Africa has witnessed and read about so many events and allegations of what Pastors are doing to and with their congregation that many have chosen to sit at home and not attend church. This is so sad to me because church is supposed to be a safe place of fellowship and edification, a place where you get counselling on pressing matters and issues of life, and where you hear of the Good News of Christ. Instead, we are inundated with Pastors molesting children, feeding their congregation snakes and inedible fluids, allegedly resurrecting and healing people in some basement or promising people that in exchange for a certain amount of money, they will receive a blessing from God. That i

Because of the enormous responses and questions that my previous blog received, I thought it best to give more information, well as much as I can offer, on the topic of mental health and my experience with it. One of the major issues is getting the right kind of help for your situation. After admitting to yourself and recognizing that you do have some form of mental health issue, which is a big step on its own, and you’ve Googled yourself numb trying to find ways of diagnosing yourself or to make yourself feel better, now comes the questions:                            -  Who do I turn to for help?                            -  How will my life change?                                -  What will the world think of my diagnosis?                                -  Does this make me weak? I’ve gone through the same kind of scenario many times. When my husband had enough of my weird behavior, he convinced me to go to the doctor with him. This time, he stepped into the room w

Like most things in life, panic or anxiety attacks have signs and symptoms that warn you of its appearance. You can either listen and treat the symptoms before they become a problem or ignore them until you’re on the ground battling to breath. I’ve battle with anxiety attacks since my matric year. I was diagnosed by a doctor and given medication for it. Recently, I experienced an attack in a grocery store, after a year of not having them. By God’s grace, I was with my husband and he talked me down, calming me down without even knowing the cause. I had been experiencing symptoms for almost 3 weeks but I ignored them and just kept going and then BOOM, my chest was tightening and my throat was closing in. But, I was dealing with the symptoms or so I thought as I was exercising, well more than usual. I was expressing my feelings only 2 days before the attack and making sure not to take on any stressful responsibilities. And it still happened. What are the symptoms? In my case, I exp

What is perfection? What are you willing to do to attain it? Is it a personal standard that you set for yourself or is it determined by social media and what society dictates? At times, we strive for the unattainable in the pursuit of happiness that we forget to enjoy and live in the current moments that we are in. Celebrating the milestones that we achieve and that one item that we get to cross off on our quest to attain what we’ve perceived in our minds as perfection. A moment of contentment and full joy because we’ve attained what is seen as perfection. But perfection doesn’t really exist. There’s no perfect job, no perfect relationship or perfect situation. Everything we go after has its challenges, moments of difficulties and needs persistence and commitment to keep. That does not mean that you cannot find perfection in moments though. For me it’s the smile on my son’s face or the look in my husband eyes. In that specific moment, I’ve attained perfection. Everything else cou