Fantasy vs. Reality – What do I want in a man?
Often, we enter into a relationship with a
long list of must haves and the "don’t even think about it list", and most times than
not, we end up living happily ever after (I love fairy tales, just so you know...)
with a completely different person than we thought we would. This can be bad as
well, but I like the good side of it. I’ve asked a lot of my friends and colleagues
as to who they ended up marrying and most of them said they found completely
new things to admire in their husbands/wives that melted their hearts and
whisked them off to the sunset. Most of the lists that I got were the typical tall,
dark, handsome, reserved and a romantic guy with a sense of humour, and for the
guys the main things were beauty with brains and must be kind-hearted.
When you choose to love someone and to live
with them for the rest of your life, flaws and all, things can get a bit
comfortable and laziness creeps in. So…. How do you keep the interest going in
your relationship? Some people travel a lot, have consistent date nights and
others play little fun games, all in an effort to remind themselves of the
reason why they fell for each other in the first place and also to forget, but
for a moment, of the struggles and issues of life that weigh down the
relationship.
I’d love to hear your ideas of how you keep
the spark in your relationship. You can comment anonymously.
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Great read as always sesi Mapula.
ReplyDeleteWell, one of my favourite topics on the blog but also one of my favourite topics in life. Love is such a beautiful thing. I think it's easier when you have found the one person you are willing to travel this journey with as compared to those of us who are still searching(for lack of a better word). Anyway as I grow, I have found myself to let go of the lists, your tall, dark and handsome as you stated and rather focus on a kind heart, relatability, compatability and compassion. Throughout life I have come to understand that there are traits in my friends that I would really like to have in a partner(significant other) such as caring and sharing. Compromise also becomes an increasingly important trait in a relationship from both parties.
Having said that. There are absolutely great things I lobe about love, like supporting each other, sharing meals(does not even have to be from a restaurant), going on trips and vacations and simply having someone to ask you how was your day. Another important aspect I almost forgot is that you pray about one another and pray for each other. There I have seen God answer prayers.
Happy month of love my dear sister.
Happy love month Dineo.
DeleteThank you for your contribution and yes, praying with each other and for each other really work miracle because when two agree there's not much that can deter them.
Kind regards,
Mapula V.
Maps what is Love? I’m thinking to myself what is this we call love, I agree with you when you say love is a choice, look love is an emotion that can’t be explained easily, it’s a seed to growing emotions, you first ‘decide’ to like someone that now leads to ‘loving’ the person and then while on it you decide ‘because I love the person I will do/not do this’ all in the name of choosing,
ReplyDeleteWell for me communicating things through and spending quality time alone with your partner helps,
Hi Phindile,
ReplyDeleteI appreciate you sharing your thoughts. Quality time is imperative and very important for the health of a relationship.
Well put.
Kind regards,
Mapula V.
Maybe remembering the "why's" is just as important.why you gave the person a chance, why you love them, do the little things you know they melt your partner's heart, have simple date nights or moments, go for a movie, leave beautiful sticky notes on their side table to make their morning, compliments them when they do good or when they dress well...I guess making effort goes a long way.
ReplyDeleteHi Beauty,
DeleteThese are great ideas. I love what you wrote about remembering why you fell in love in the first place. What made this person worth choosing and keeping, above all the rest. That is quite important and making the effort. I completely agree.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Kind regards,
Mapula V.